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   Layla

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   08/03/09

   
   

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   PatLuv

   481 Kudos

   12/22/08

   Happy Holidays to you and yours Karen!
   
   

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   Eympire

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   11/25/08

   

   
   

   
   

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   genie123

   171 Kudos

   03/27/08

   Karen, it sounds like you are doing well, which I'm really glad to see. I have a few thoughts to share with you on some of the things you wrote, and hopefully will find time later this evening after my tasks are completed at home. I work all day, and with my husband's recent stroke, have had to take on all the home duties, so it keeps me busy. But I do have some things to say, so I will later. By the way, you sound marvelously healthy for having had such drama in your life. Take care. Jeanne
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   genie123

   171 Kudos

   03/26/08

   Hi Karen. Thanks for your reply. I wasn't sure whether you would get my reply. I really am having trouble adjusting to Yuku, but the more I deal with it, the better I get. I hope you are doing okay with all you've had to deal with lately. You have been abused beyond reason by your family, and it must be really hard finding peace over that. But in time you will find a way to overcome. Sometimes I think that is what gets us by, overcoming the bad stuff. Hang in there. Jeanne
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   03/27/08

   Reply from goddess:

   Well, hello again, Jeanne! (Damn emoticons aren't working!!!!! I can't TALK without emoticons....hence my "Emoticon Queen" moniker. LOL)
   
   You know, I think you're right about how the bad things in life only toughen you up. One thing for sure, it sure made me grow up FAST. And I left out some things that are unspeakable, but at least there was no sexual abuse. You HAVE to find something positive about everything or it will drive you nuts. And the GOOD thing I have discovered during "Emiliegate," is that, this time, my Dad crossed over some invisible line from which there is no return for me, and I *think* I can now just write him off with a CLEAR conscience, which is something my darlin' hubby of 35 years has been gently trying to get me to see/do for 39 years. I believed a family should never be broken up, and like a text-book case of an abused child of an alcoholic, every time I was hurt or rejected by them it only made me try harder, and it kept me going back for more. I pray that is behind me now. Everyone has gone back to their long-distance lives now, and my Dad is now alone. After 'discussing' it, my sibs declared, "He's a big boy now and should be able to take care of himself." Translation: no one wants him around. It shouldn't take too long for him to drink himself to death, or die in an auto accident or other catastrophe while drunk. We'll see.
   
   Making the decision relatively easy for me was probably the best thing my Dad ever did for me. The overall insanity of it all is the straw that broke this camel's back, and I am at peace with her death and the way I treated HER while she was alive. My Mom was quite good at being an Ice Queen most of the time, and she was complicit in my not being told about her illness. Just exactly how much, I still hope to find out. I also found out from my brother that there was a graveside service and burial of her remains, the day after the wake & memorial service. I'm not supposed to know where that is either, but I'm 99% sure I already know where. I'll get the plot location from my brother, hopefully. Barring that, I can just go there and ask.
   
   I've never been one to visit gravesites, but then this is the first time my Mother died. My beloved Gramma (ironically, HER Mother, who wrote my Mom out of her big fat will, but she had a plethera of good reasons to do so.) has a crypt there and I'd like to visit her too. We lived one block over from my G&G while I was growing up in Chicago, and in retrospect, I believe she KNEW what my homelife was like and took me under her wing and tried to minimize the damage. Virtually ALL my good memories from childhood were times I spent with her and my Grampa, (which was most of the time) whom I was also very close to.
   

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   I'm going to leave the rest for a private response; FYI, if you don't know, anyone can read the posts here. You have to use PM or direct email for privacy. There's a way to post privately on here, too, I believe. But I can't access it while I'm writing this and can't say for sure.
   
   For now, I am doing OK, but I still have my moments, which is to be expected. But I have a sense of peace in my heart about my relationship with my parents that I've never felt before, thanks to my Dad's behavior. That's another good thing....and I think, a good place to begin the rest of my life.
   
   Thanks again, Jeanne, and you'll be hearing from me ASAP. Take care, and don't take any wooden nickels from Tully. ;-)
   
   Karen XOXO
   
   
   
   
   

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   genie123

   171 Kudos

   03/26/08

   Hi. I'm still not used to this Yuku stuff. I really enjoy hanging out at BG.

   03/26/08

   Reply from goddess:

   Hi Genie! Don't worrry, you'll get used to it in no time. Thanks for stopping by, and.....I will still get back to you like I promised, but I'm kind of laying low for now; trying to sort things out. I'll probably PM you; the thread about my Mom has dropped off and I don't feel much like resurrecting it.
   
   Hang in there, you don't seem to me like you're a slow learner! :-)
   
   Karen XOXO

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